The Archive

In narcissistic relationships, unequal rules aren’t accidental. This piece explores how early asymmetry is normalized, internalized, and used to systematically dismantle a person’s autonomy over time.

After leaving the relationship, my communication was limited to logistics. Hers wasn’t. This post documents one small set of messages—and what happened when a clear boundary disrupted the story being told. When facts no longer serve the narrative, they get rewritten.

Emotional confusion in relationships doesn’t always arrive as chaos. It shows up when understanding stops working. When your ability to interpret what you’re living inside quietly disappears.

Nothing felt wrong at the beginning. What showed up instead was confusion that felt like growth, patience that felt like maturity, and a quiet belief that understanding was my responsibility.

The first year felt like a new relationship in its most ordinary form. It felt mutual, grounded, and predictable enough to trust.

Emotional safety in relationships often feels steady, unforced, and real. This post explains why trusting those experiences is human and why unlearning that trust isn’t the growth you want.

What does it mean to survive as a neurodivergent person in a world built to break you? This isn’t a hero story. It’s a record of what it really felt like.

When narcissistic abuse meets neurodivergence, it exploits empathy and self-doubt. This post names the tactics and offers a path back to your truth.

Queer love was supposed to free us from roles—but often, old scripts sneak back in. For neurodivergent partners especially, the pressure to perform instead of co-create intimacy can feel like betrayal. Here’s a reflection on how role-free love offers liberation, tenderness, and truer connection.

A deeply personal reflection on identity-first language in autism - why saying “I’m Autistic” isn’t grammar, but a declaration of wholeness.

Autistic inconsistency doesn’t just shape what we do. It shapes who we get to become. This is the grief of walking away - not from failure, but from possibility.

Benevolent ableism wears the mask of kindness but quietly narrows life. It shows up as unsolicited help, endless scorekeeping, or being placed on a pedestal instead of being known. This piece unpacks the no-win choices it creates and why the grief it leaves behind is as real—and as heavy—as it feels.

Everyday ableism isn’t always loud. It shows up in kitchens rearranged, in jokes at work, in care that misses the mark. This series rates those moments—from one star to five—to show what true support feels like.

What happens when two neurodivergent queer people build love without roles, scripts, or power plays? This post explores the future of queer connection—and the freedom that comes when we stop reenacting the systems that harmed us.

Why does the term neuroqueer spark discomfort? This post explores the cultural tensions, critiques, and contradictions that come with identity-in-motion.

What does it mean to survive as a neurodivergent person in a world built to break you? This isn’t a hero story. It’s a record of what it really felt like.

What does it mean to survive as a neurodivergent person in a world built to break you? This isn’t a hero story. It’s a record of what it really felt like.

What does neuroqueering look like when it’s not a theory - but a life? From soft resistance to weird communication, here’s how we quietly live it.

I was never hard to love. But I was taught to be quiet, to disappear, to comply. This personal essay is about what behavioral therapy took—and who I might’ve become without it.

Where did the word neuroqueer come from? This post explores its roots in queer theory, disability justice, and the lived experience of being both too much and not enough.