Reactive abuse raises a crucial question: when harm occurs, how do we determine whether abuse is present—and in which direction it flows?

In narcissistic relationships, unequal rules aren’t accidental. This piece explores how early asymmetry is normalized, internalized, and used to systematically dismantle a person’s autonomy over time.

After leaving the relationship, my communication was limited to logistics. Hers wasn’t. This post documents one small set of messages—and what happened when a clear boundary disrupted the story being told. When facts no longer serve the narrative, they get rewritten.