A deeply personal reflection on identity-first language in autism - why saying “I’m Autistic” isn’t grammar, but a declaration of wholeness.

Autistic inconsistency doesn’t just shape what we do. It shapes who we get to become. This is the grief of walking away - not from failure, but from possibility.

Queer love was supposed to free us from roles—but often, old scripts sneak back in. For neurodivergent partners especially, the pressure to perform instead of co-create intimacy can feel like betrayal. Here’s a reflection on how role-free love offers liberation, tenderness, and truer connection.