Welcome to Autistic Elle: A Blog About Neurodivergent Identity

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Autistic, queer, full of voiceless thoughts

Hi. I’m Elle. I live in a small town in Western Colorado - —think canyons, hot springs, more stars than you can count, and enough solitude to let my brain roam freely. This blog is something I’ve been meaning to start for a long time - and now I finally have.

If you’re here, you probably care about neurodivergent identity, connection, or just figuring out how to move through life in a way that makes sense. Me too. That’s what this space is for.

Who I am and what I hope to do

I’m AuDHD - which means I’m both autistic and ADHD - and I’m polysexual, which for me, just means that attraction doesn’t stick to one gender or shape. I’ve always felt a little sideways to the world. Not broken, not confused - just... tuned in differently.

My brain is thoroughly obsessed with behavior. People are my special interest. I notice micro-reactions, gaps between intention and impact, how we communicate (or don’t), and all the weird, confusing, awful, tender ways we treat each other - especially when things get messy. And they do. Often.

This blog is where I’ll be writing about:

• Messy relationships - romantic, platonic, familial, and everything in between

• Missteps, failures, and regrets - the whole uncomfortable pile

• Internalized ableism - the kind that makes me doubt myself even when I “know better”

• The ways I’ve been toxic - not to beat myself up, but to own it and do better

• Small moments that mean something - a look, a sentence, a shift in the air

It’s a place to process, reflect, and be real about what it means to me to be a person - especially one still struggling far more than I expected to be at this mile marker.

This won't be a highlight reel

I’m not here trying to serve up some polished version of myself. There will be no “look how far I’ve come!” energy. I mean, sometimes I’ll share wins, sure - but I’m more interested in sharing the stuff I’m still working through. The human stuff. The awkward, painful, and sometimes funny stuff that doesn’t make it onto social media because it doesn’t photograph well.

But I promise, even when it gets raw, I’m not here to wallow. There’s joy in all of this. Gratitude too. Even when I’m unpacking something hard, there’s still a thread of curiosity, of care, of hope. That’s important to me. This blog isn’t about cynicism - it’s about showing up honestly and trying again.

So why now?

Because I want a space where I can be fully myself - neurodivergent, queer, complicated, thoughtful, imperfect - and invite others to do the same. Maybe you’ll see yourself in some of these stories. Maybe you won’t. But either way, I’m glad you’re taking a look about.

If you like reading about human behavior, identity, connection, mistakes, learning, and growth (but without the self-help voiceover), you’ll probably feel at home here.

Thanks for showing up. I can’t wait to see where this goes.

 - Elle

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Want to Keep Exploring Neurodivergent Identity?

This space is still new, but it’s already full of big questions, half-formed truths, and stories that might sound a little like yours.

If you’re curious where to go next, here are a few places to wander:

• Start Here: What Even Is Divergent Adulting?

  For those of us learning how to care for ourselves the second (or third) time around.

  
  

• The Neurotypical Gift of Telling Stories in "Real-Time"

  If you too have been held captive by a neurotypical storyline, you'll want to read this. None of us can carry the weight alone. ;)

  
  

• The Neuroqueer Life Map Quickstart (free download)

  A gentle, self-paced journal for autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, queer or otherwise neurodivergent humans who are ready to unmask, unlearn, and rewrite their story from the inside out.

Or, if you just want to be here quietly, you can join the list and I’ll send new things your way when they’re ready - a couple times a month or so. No pressure. No right answer.

I love that you’re here.

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